We all know the absence of father's in the home is a big problem in our country and around the world. We are aware how boy's growing up without the influence of a father, struggle to become a man. We, as women, don't have what it takes (this will offend some, but hear me out) to raise a man. We are NOT men. We do NOT think like men. We, admittedly, do not understand men. Why do we think we can raise a boy to become a man all by ourselves?
It takes a man to raise a man, preferably the boy's father. You may not agree with his parenting style (you probably won't), or how he chooses to live, but he is the child's father and nothing will ever change that fact. A woman is necessary, but a man is also necessary to the child's learning to be a man. A man examples manhood, which is how children learn best. We, as women, may not agree with how men behave, let's face it, we also love how men behave!
Now, what about girls? What does a girl learn from her father? He examples how a man should treat a woman. He displays a love for his daughter that sets the road for her future relationships with boyfriends and someday, her husband. A father's love can example to his child, how God's love might look. This is also an admonishment to fathers....are you treating your daughter well? Are you treating your wife well? This will example to sons and daughters alike. Are your kids seeing a relationship in your marriage similar to what you want them to have someday?
So, single mom's out there, forgive your ex-husband (father of your children) quickly. Assist in his relationship, as much as is sensible, with his children. They need him more than you hate him. When it is impossible or the father isn't cooperative, find male mentors for your children. What about your family - uncles, brothers, etc.? The father's family? There are safe men....find one who is willing, committed and do a background check on non-family members. Men are necessary.
Challenge for today: If you are still angry at your child's father, hit your knees and ask God to soften your heart. Forgiveness means: "Yes, you hurt me. I choose to forgive you." It doesn't mean you must re-marry or allow him into your personal life. On the other hand, if you feel reconciliation is a possibility, seek counseling to best equip yourselves for a new relationship. Either way, your kids need their father, if he is willing, available and committed to their well-being. Open the door for him be in their lives. It will be worth the extra effort.
It takes a man to raise a man, preferably the boy's father. You may not agree with his parenting style (you probably won't), or how he chooses to live, but he is the child's father and nothing will ever change that fact. A woman is necessary, but a man is also necessary to the child's learning to be a man. A man examples manhood, which is how children learn best. We, as women, may not agree with how men behave, let's face it, we also love how men behave!
Now, what about girls? What does a girl learn from her father? He examples how a man should treat a woman. He displays a love for his daughter that sets the road for her future relationships with boyfriends and someday, her husband. A father's love can example to his child, how God's love might look. This is also an admonishment to fathers....are you treating your daughter well? Are you treating your wife well? This will example to sons and daughters alike. Are your kids seeing a relationship in your marriage similar to what you want them to have someday?
So, single mom's out there, forgive your ex-husband (father of your children) quickly. Assist in his relationship, as much as is sensible, with his children. They need him more than you hate him. When it is impossible or the father isn't cooperative, find male mentors for your children. What about your family - uncles, brothers, etc.? The father's family? There are safe men....find one who is willing, committed and do a background check on non-family members. Men are necessary.
Challenge for today: If you are still angry at your child's father, hit your knees and ask God to soften your heart. Forgiveness means: "Yes, you hurt me. I choose to forgive you." It doesn't mean you must re-marry or allow him into your personal life. On the other hand, if you feel reconciliation is a possibility, seek counseling to best equip yourselves for a new relationship. Either way, your kids need their father, if he is willing, available and committed to their well-being. Open the door for him be in their lives. It will be worth the extra effort.
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